Hi All,
It's been a long time since I"ve posted here. I'm finding it hard to set aside the time and the emotional energy to do so. But I had a thought the other night that I wanted to share - one that is fairly transformational. I've always been a cup-half-full type of person - and I've been looking at my grief from a cup-half empty perspective. It was never that I've lost time with Hyatt - it was and has always been that I'd been given 17 great years of time with her. It, apparently, was never in God's plan to give me more than that.
So with that perspective I can see how lucky I was to have gotten those years with her... and I really was lucky... she was a real catch :)
This perspective breaks down a bit though when I think about the girls... I haven't gotten through that one yet. I suppose that will evolve as they grow.
So go hug your loved ones and tell them how lucky you are to have them in your life.
Troy.
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Troy,
I have thought of you often and wondered how you and the girls were dong. I have checked evryday to see if you have any updates. I hope you continue to post and let us know how you are doing.
Tracy
Your perspective is appreciated more than you know. Thanks you for sharing. Still praying for you and your family.
Always thinking of you and Hyatt. You have come so far in your grief and your "Half Full" concept is more than proof. I know I'm only looking from the outside, but your girls are testimony that you are doing a great job and that Hyatt is and will be very much with them!!!!
Love you! Mary (Woods)
Nice to hear from you Troy. I still check the website to see how you are doing. People haven't forgotten you or the girls. Glad to hear that the cup is half full.
Troy, it is good to hear from you again on the blog. Yes, we are all lucky to have had time with Hyatt. That has been our blessing. You can now look at that cup as one which the girls will help you keep half full as you continue to relate to them the fullness of life with Hyatt. You can continue to derive the Lord's blessing of Hyatt thru those two beautiful blessings that she and you created together. Keep the faith and know we are always with you (particularly in song!).
Your fellow bass - Al O
Thanks Troy. That transformational grasp is huge! Am sure it is a One Day at a Time kind of life. But, then, life most times is that way. Blessings and hugs to all of you...Bob and Pat Geipel
I continue to pray for your family.
Still praying for your family. I know first hand the grief of losing a spouse. It never goes away. ...one thing I did learn. It is not time that heals, it is what you do with that time. May God bless you and comfort you as you continue on this journey of grief.
Troy,
God loves you and your little family. He will fill that cup over time with all the love you can take. Your dear Hyatt is still loving and praying for you.
God bless
Thanks for the update, Troy. Still thinking of you and your girls!
Troy,
It's good to hear from you and get a glimse of how you are doing. I like what you said about looking at your grief through a cup half full as opposed to half empty. I'm thinking about it in light of other areas of my life as well. Thanks for giving me something to ponder! I am still praying for you and the girls. I'll keep doing that until......You are loved and prayed for still.GarvyS
Dear Troy,
Still...not a day goes by I don't think of Hyatt and you all. I too am so grateful for the time I had her in my life. I am hoping to have a "cup half full" feeling every time she is in my thoughts. I am just missing her...you all. Give the girls kisses and good hair smelling hugs from me. Love and miss you! Julie
Troy, I'm glad to see you posted. My sisters went to high school with Hyatt. Your attitude really impresses me. I pray that the Lord continues to help you enjoy each day! --debbie white wilkins
Don't forget that there are still people out there (in our case those that have never met you and Hyatt) that are still praying for you. Your cup, indeed, is half full. Our best to you.
It had actually been a while since I checked your blog. Your renewed perspective is beautiful. With time it will translate for the girls as well. Remember, it is ALL part of God's plan. Your girls are the piece of Hyatt He wanted you to have and love.
Peace within.
Katie
I hope you continue to be a cup "half full" person. Count your blessings, cherish your moments, and life every day to the fullest. I sill think of you and your family often. I am glad to hear from you today. Thank you for your post. You have so many people in this world (whom you don't know)....who are praying for you. Blessings to you and your family....
Often I still check the site to see how you and the girls are doing,,,, I’m one of the people that you have never met but we prayer for you and your family. It was very good to hear how you are doing, I often wonder if you and the girls are ok…. Keep the faith and it will walk you through one day at a time…..
Have not forgotten you or your admonition to show our loved ones we care. Still trying to do that in the best and most way possible. Praying for you and your family.
Sending love from the Boro. I think of you and the girls all the time and am praying for you. Love you, Jenn
Once again reading your blog touches me. Your strength continues to shine on and you are remembering all those wonderful years with your beautiful wife as they were-a gift from God. My family and I admire you and as always continue to pray for you and your girls. Hope you have a wonderful school year-
carol (hbpk)
Troy,
I have so enjoyed getting to know your mom, dad and girls. What a WONDERFUL family you have. Thanks for sharing your mom with us Friday night! :) I'm hoping to get over soon to see Sid and Bek now that school is starting again... haven't seen Bekah since June! Hi to all, Kim Nussbaum
As this first anniversary approaches, remember there are a lot of people still praying for you and the girls. Because of God's presence in your life your cup will soon again be overflowing.
Katie
God Bless your family even more during these tough days. I can't imagine what life has been like for you but know that you, Hyatt and your whole family have been our thoughts over this past year and will continue to be. You are such a strong man and your Half-Full mentality just goes to show it. Hyatt may not be here in person but she is in spirit and with your love and support and her everlasting spirit your girls will be able to accomplish so much! Such a loving family, my prayers are with you all. - Jen Knutson
Hi Troy,
about you all day and Hyatt and all the girls. I am still real sad but had a thought about the Billy Joel song only the good die young, then I heard another song about Christ rising and how his time on earth has been short but good. I learned so much from Hyatt and you. Thank you, you are both an insipration as I continue on my journey to reconnect to my faith. Love to all.
Brenda, Leif and Harmony
So glad you posted again. I thought you may not come back. God bless those girls. I think of them often.
Hi Troy,
I was Googling some today looking for old friends, classmates, roommates, etc. and found this site.
I was thrilled to see that you and Hyatt "made it" but as I read on I realized what had happened. I'm literally sitting at work with tears in my eyes.
I don't really have the words, but suffice it to say that I'm really glad you got 17 years with her and I hope that you and your girls can be happy.
Regards,
Dave
Troy,
Your love story with Hyatt has touched me immensely. I know that, wherever she is, she is looking upon you with such pride and tenderness for the bumpy road you have so gracefully traveled. May God be with you, Sid, and Bek as you continue on your journey of faith, grief, hope, and hopefully...happiness. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Just wanted to let you know that we are still thinking about you and praying for you (especially on 9-11). We are enjoying your girls tremendously in church almost every Sunday. There is something missing when you are not there. Wishing you a reason to smile every day,
Ursula
Troy, I've been thinking of you and the girls a lot this month. Your story has touched so many people. Even though I'm sure you wish the hands of time could turn back and none of this would have happend, those looking on from the outside have been blessed and encouaged by the authentic way you have walked this journey of grief, faith, and loss. I will continue to pray for you and all of your extended family as long as God continues to bring you to mind. You are loved, GarvyS
Troy, I've been thinking of you and the girls a lot this month. Your story has touched so many people. Even though I'm sure you wish the hands of time could turn back and none of this would have happend, those looking on from the outside have been blessed and encouaged by the authentic way you have walked this journey of grief, faith, and loss. I will continue to pray for you and all of your extended family as long as God continues to bring you to mind. You are loved, GarvyS
Troy,
I have followed your family almost from the beginning of this event in your lives. Today, on Hyatt's birthday, I wanted to touch again to let you know that even those of us who have never met you, the girls, or Hyatt fact to face hold you in our hearts and continue to pray for healing that may never end. Peace be with you.
Hi Troy,
Just wanted to let you know that you and the girls are being thought of and prayed for right now...
Hey Troy,
Just stoppin by to let you know that you and the girls are still thought about often. I hope you are experiencing God's grace each day as you raise the girls,go to work, take a walk, and breathe the air of fall. You are loved and prayed for still. Love, GarvyS
Troy, girls and family,
Just wanted to wish you a Thanksgiving day filled with the love you have for one another and the wonderful deep sense that God provides, sustains, and heals. Wishing you all the deep Peace of Jesus. We can only imagine what missing Hyatt is like, yet the Word of God expressed through her is everywhere...Bob and Pat Geipel
Prayers and love all the way from strangers in Texas. I stumbled across this blog today and have read of your journey and loss. I hope it brings you joy knowing that Hyatt's legacy was played out once again today as I held my three little boys tighter and was sure to tell each one of them and my husband how much they mean to me today. Life is so short and precious...I long for the day I will meet Hyatt in Heaven with Jesus. Know that our prayers will go up for you often...you and Hyatt are not forgotten!
Kim Dietz
Carrollton, TX
Troy,
I'm thinking of you as the one year anniversary of Hyatt's passing draws near. I've missed hearing from you on the blog. Although we've never met, I feel like I know you at some level. I'm sure many who have followed your journey feel the same. I hope you are doing ok and making the most of each moment you are given with the girls and others in your life whom you love and are love by.
I will keep praying for you in the days,months and years to come as God brings you to my mind. I trust you will experience His peace and presence as you experience Christmas and New Year with the girls and your loved ones. God bless you, Troy. You are brave and strong and the girls are blessed to have you as their dad. You are loved. GarvyS
I've been keeping you and your girls in my prayers, Troy! I hope you have a wonderful Christmas and a Happy New Year! I hope you and your girls are doing okay. I think of ya'll often! I look forward to your posts.
God bless you!
Troy, Happy New Year to you and the girls!!!! Hope you are doing well and pressing forward in the new year with hope and peace!!! Praying you sense God's grace in a special way today. You are loved, GarvyS
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