So we got City of Angles in from my parents Netflix today - I wanted to see this movie as part of my grieving process. I didn't make it more that 30 seconds into it when I had to stop. I thought that the main story line would provide some parallels for me to feel loss, pain, and hope. The opening scene where the little girl had a high fever and her mom was working alone, at night, to combat it really slammed me unexpectedly with flashbacks.
That night it so very lonely - and quiet. I found myself so very alone praying for Hyatt to just take one more breath - and one more - and one more. In the 10 minutes it took for the paramedics to arrive - some of the most quiet and desperate moments I have ever experienced. It was both tender and terrifying at the same time. The rush of feelings that I felt that night was triggered again by watching that opening scene... You just don't understand how alone you are and how helpless that you feel - or at least I pray that you don't/won't/haven't.
Go hug your family. Wake the kids up and kiss them.
Love,
Troy.
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May God bless you and your precious family. I came across your blog by accident and I am so grateful that I did. You and your beautiful family are in my heart and prayers daily. I will continue to check this blog daily in hopes that a wonderful miracle will occur. And....I do believe in miracles.
Oh Troy....I am keeping you in my prayers..and the girls.
To Troy
(and anyone else applicable of course)
Troy,
This is Bryan Wright from NC. Hyatt and I were friends in high school. I had hoped to find her at some time, just to catch up. Unfortunately, this was the first I had seen of her since then.
I am a minister here and have been praying for you and her and your family ever since, and will continue to do so with a fervency.
God however has put something on my heart to share with you, and would not let me forget that I was supposed to do it :)
Recently He gave me a sermon called "Get Your Hopes Up!". It was meant for ANYONE in a dire situation. I think it could be exactly what you and possibly others could use.
Here is the link to the sermon:
http://audio.xanga.com/wrightministry/13e4a2727271/audio.html
My prayer is for complete healing for Hyatt, and strength and comfort for you and your family.
Remember, even when a father was faced with news of the death of his daughter, Jesus told that man to not despair, but to ONLY BELIEVE.
You can reach me at wrightministry@yahoo.com if you have any questions.
Blessings on you and all the girls,
bryan
One night a man had a dream. He dreamed He was walking along the beach with the Lord. Across the sky flashed scenes from His life. For each scene He noticed two sets of footprints in the sand. One belonging to Him and the other to the Lord.
When the last scene of His life flashed before Him, he looked back at the footprints in the sand. He noticed that many times along the path of His life there was only one set of footprints. He also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times of His life.
This really bothered Him and He questioned the Lord about it. Lord you said that once I decided to follow you, you'd walk with me all the way. But I have noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life there is only one set of footprints. I don't understand why when I needed you most you would leave me.
The Lord replied, my precious, precious child, I Love you and I would never leave you! During your times of trial and suffering when you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you.
(Carolyn Carty, 1963)
Troy,
I can't wrap my mind around the nightmare you walked into that night...and I am so sorry. God was, and is, with you...and we are all with you now.
If the angels are up there catching and delivering all of our prayers for you, Hyatt, and the girls, I believe you have your very own city of angels...
Troy,
First of all, please don't watch that movie. I've seen it and you definitely do not want to watch it - please take my word on that.
My prayer for you is that you will feel God's arms around you and be able to sense His presence. The God who breathed life into dust to create man was breathing through you into Hyatt that night. He was, and is, with you every step of the way. So are we.
We love you and we're here for you.
Nancy
Troy,
I want to share with you how I feel completely transformed by what you all are going through, for how Hyatt has changed my life and contributed so greatly to me. I believe that we are all placed on this Earth for a purpose. God has a plan for us, for who we will touch, for how we will contribute, for the mark we will leave behind. I only met Hyatt once, right after Bekah was born. Up until her cardiac arrest, I was growing weary. My two girls, ages 4 and 1, are absolute gems, but I was finding myself growing less and less patient each day. They are truly good kids and we have been blessed by having it so easy with them, but as much as I love them and as magnificent as they are, I was finding myself getting irritated and impatient and increasingly yelling and loosing my cool WAY too often. I know every parent goes there from time to time, but for me, in my moments of consciousness to my actions, (yes, to my thoughts and words, and what I had done and what I had failed to do), I knew it was getting too close to crossing a line and I felt like it was happening ALL the time. Worst of all, while I knew that it could all be gone at any moment, I found myself just trying to get through the day, counting the minutes until I could put them to bed and be “done” for the day.
When I found out about Hyatt, all of that changed. I hear about tragic things all the time, but something touched me in a way I can’t explain. Perhaps it was having just met her a few months prior. Perhaps it was the similarities we shared. She was wearing a NC State sweatshirt and I went to Meredith. We connected over that. We both have odd names that are actually middle names in honor of a relative. We both have 2 girls just a couple years apart. Maybe it was more her warmth and the sparkle in her eyes when we talked briefly that day. I think it was Grace. Whatever it was, when I found out what happened, I had the sense that SHE is ME. I believe that we’re all connected, but it’s one thing to believe it as a concept, and another to really “get it” at one’s core. Somehow that day, I got it. I got that it could be me. I got that the last time I spoke to my kid, when I was yelling over something totally stupid and unimportant, that could have been the last time I spoke to her. For the last 3 weeks I have felt a calm and feeling of peace, even in the midst of chaos, that I can only attribute to the gift Hyatt has given me. I have treasured every moment with my kids, and choose patience and peace. I hate that it has come at this cost to your family, but I know for me, this horrible situation has been an amazing gift, a saving grace.
I have wondered over the last couple weeks if there is someone that Hyatt is meant to touch through her coma before she can move on. Perhaps THIS is her purpose. Perhaps THIS was what God has always intended for her, for the two of you, to wake people up to the fleeting moments we get, for the faith to have, and for the love to share and express in each and every moment, because we never know which moment may be our last opportunity to do so.
With all that said, I also wanted to share that I had a vision last week, the night of the prayer vigil. I didn’t make it to the church, but that night I prayed for Hyatt and for your family. Somewhere in the midst of it, this image washed over me of Hyatt and you sitting next to Oprah on a show about miracles. She was smiling and radiant and 100% recovered, reaching millions of people who sometimes need a little help to have faith – to remember what we already know. God has a plan, for her, for you, for your precious girls. He will not fail you, whatever the outcome. She is exactly where He wants her to be. Thank you for your strength and your faith and for sharing yourself so fully with all of us in this time. It is truly a gift.
I took your advice and woke my toddler up for one last kiss before going to sleep. I received an amazingly sweet, sleepy smile. Thank you...
To Troy, your children & your wonderful supportive friends....I don't know any of you but have learned of your tragic story through mutual friends and follow this blog every few days. I pray God blesses you and gives you the strength to carry on.
God bless you Troy and the inner strength you continue to draw from. His will is our Way, and His promises are never broken. Jen and I will continue to pray for you, as our church and friends will, and we will heed your words of advice to embrace every moment, every touch, every laugh, every scent...
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